May 22, 2015 admin

PURPOSE: NO BIRD

by Marietta Robinson

Age 63. Washington, DC

I think this is the wrong question. It is too macro and that is not the way we live our lives. Many purposes emerge in the course of a day let alone a week or a lifetime. And they change. Once you have lost a spouse or a child and go through a grief so intense that you must find a purpose for it, you truly know two things: you are nothing – no bird will interrupt his song when your heart stops – and you are everything – the universe and all of its life force is in you. When you truly know those two things, the question to answer is: what makes you smile in the morning as you anticipate the day? That will tell you what the purpose of your day is and you may only have this day.

You are nothing – no bird will interrupt his song when your heart stops – and you are everything – the universe and all of its life force is in you.


I live a life of integrity. I know how to and do love deeply. I listen carefully to what people do and do not say. I do not need to hear my story again as I have heard it many times. When I think about what people think of me, I remind myself that mostly they do not. I have many opinions, but I do not need you to know all of them. I truly pay attention. The surprises of any day, both big and small, good, bad and in between will test you in some way and, when you are proud of yourself at the end of the day, it will bring a smile that is very different than the morning’s smile of anticipation.

Once you are gone, others will remember what you contributed to their lives in ways over which you have no control whatsoever. So, finding your center of calm, contentment, and joy – along with some wonderful music – becomes the means by which you may contribute to the world in your own unique way and that particularity of contribution is the path to connecting with others at the deepest levels and that is the most we can hope for.

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